Just what value is need when in a time of crisis?
I just had a conversation with one of my daughters. I have five. And for me that makes a good balancing point having these various points of views to deal with.
Now what the conversation was about is my PD’s convictions. (By the way PD means precious darling.) Please do not act like you do not have one at your house. It just might be the one that goes to court/ jail all the time. By the way we all have one, two or more PDs’. But that will be another story.
Well here what happen? On December 5th, 2012 I get a call, stating, “I am being taken into cusdesty”. A call, from my oldest son, the “precious darling”. Then he goes on to say” I am here at Potawatomi.” Then the phone goes dead. Now I am experiencing some loss, regret and shame all over again.
I spent three days trying to find out where he is and what the charges are. The security at the casino would not give any information as to the nature of why or what prompted the incident. But saying” here is the number to the police station.” The outcome is that I find him and someone willing to talk about what the charges are. I was blown away. After listening to the correction officer list them for me. Then, the officer asked, if I wanted to come and visit my son. My response was “hell no”. And then I went on to say. “Those charges, does not sound like a political prison to me.” It is Five O’clock in the morning. However, my PD was facing some serious time as the officer was reading the charges to me.
So, after about six months of court time, my PD is serving some time in the House of Correction. Plus, placed in a drug treatment program. It was the surveillance camera and some drugs that were filmed, jumping out of this pocket, that a guest had reported that he seen because he was behind him. So as a family we are glad it worked out well for all. He getting the treatment he needs and he is paying for it out of his own pocket. You do the crime. So he must pay, this is my motto. I get a story to tell to hopefully will encourage others to be much more involved with the charges and tickets that loves get.
However, when questioning my son’s attorney, his response was, “Did he deny not having them?”
So here is the lesson. You must do some looking around as to what your love one is being charged with. Ask questions. Keep your emotions in check. Cussing, hollering and feeling bad will not help. But prayers and actions will. Research the laws surrounding the siltation. There some chances that your attorney do not know it all, or even have the time to do the needed research. My PD was facing some serious time as the officer was reading the charges to me.
Businesses have the right to call the police. And the state will step in to prosecute. So in closing, this is what I told my daughter about how the casino should spell out in their rules.
If you are found guilty of this we will call the law to come on our property and have your taken away to the full extent of the law. Surveillance camera is every where. There is a new law for their use. Understand it and what it means for you and your family and, how it will affect the case.
As stated before just what value is needed in the time of crisis. Education and a clear head with the emotions in checked. Owning up that your child did wrong is hard and bitter. I am not pointing any fingers but we need to share and make a change in either the system or our selves.
So by the way, here is what the rules states for that casino: Over consumption of alcohol or use of controlled/illegal substances will not be tolerated.
But this is where I differ with my daughter , and a attorney, on the rule. Ti should state if you are believed to be guilty of this we will call the law to come on our property and have your taken away to the full extent of the law. Surveillance cameras are every where. There is a new law for their use as evidence. Understand it and what it means for you and your family.
So in closing, as stated before just what value is needed in the time of crisis. Education and a clear head with the emotions in checked. You might be able to get to the truth of the matter. Because someone has been hurt, or suffering and it was action that has gotten them there or was it?
With prays use action. Find what will work your and you.