Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year. Thanks to all that read my blog. Thanks for the support and encouragement.

Although, this blog is me flying by the seat of my pants. I will get better and reach more Mothers of felons and other partners.
I understand some of what you may be going through. Because I was also in your shoes and happen to be putting on a new pair as I communicate.

However, for the new year.  Let's make the changes to ours selves first. We need to be strong in the face adversity. Keep a open mind. No matter how bad the charges/or pending charges may sound. Or even the incarceration. Observe, first. Just what is happening. Love your self. And develop a plan on how to best handle the situation. As you learn all the facts.

Your child/ren will soon or latter, will be released.  And plans must be made as where they will stay, do you what to add and extra phoneline, your hurt feeling and etc. Love and communication will go along way.

See this time as a chance to grow, and learn, and it is. Since you will be discovering new things about your self and child/ren. Plus how strong your faith really is.

Worry and fear will not help. But research and understanding the criminal justice system will.
Happy New Year!

Friday, December 28, 2012

Monday, December 10, 2012

Victim of Circumstances.

Since we are now victims of circumstances, what do we do? Fear and worry becomes the two companions that 

takes residency in our hearts. We become ashamed about what has happened in our family, and then we wonder where did we go wrong? I've heard of the women say this, as they tell their situation and their stories. At one time I was in that same boat. At that time I was going to college, working and raising my children.

You have no idea of the shame I felt when having to ask for time off from work to go to court. But it was those very things that I had to work through, my son was on a crime role, and I was in a fog. My first reaction was to just sit back and let the system teach him a lesson. A dear friend reminded me about something that I think a lot of you might be too young to remember or know anything about Jeffrey Darmer ( if spelled wrong, please forgive) the infamous Wisconsin murderer. He not only killed his victims, but he also froze some of them, or some may say he preserved his victims, and if I'm not mistaken. He may have eaten some of them as well. Now if his mother showed up in court for him. "Then why not show up for your child? That question was the tipping point for me at that time. Most of the times. There are no mothers or anyone else in the court rooms showing some kind of support for that child. That young man or young woman with the chains on them is still our child. Your child.

It's now up to us to make sense of this horrible situation that the family has been thrown into it is also up to us to reform ourselves and learn from this life-changing experience.

This is when you ask yourself, what do I do. Where do I go, and am I the Blame for this new challenge. Remember prayers without action will only go so far. How you handle yourself and your reactions to the matter is most important. If at all possible. Keep a diary writing helps, the soul. Writing onto paper can often be a great relief. 

Don't worry if you can't spell that well. Is that  what texting is all about. Write, and release those feelings of guilt and anguish. Blaming oneself and bathing in grief can and will make one sick and very weary. There is no time for that now, you need your health and strength for all the things that are about to happen. Since, you are a victim of circumstances, you will have to work on the outcome and get involved. Learn and move forward.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Life in general

To withdraw into a disconnected inner life that avoids key issues and leads nowhere. Whereas if you accept facing the world, then the world will make sure that you face yourself.

What do this really mean to you?  This is just a question. i know what is means in my life.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Sunday, November 25, 2012

What do it mean to be a felon? Or to be know as a Mother of a felon.

What do it mean to be a felon? Or to be know as a Mother of  a felon.
The American Heritage Dictionary states:
felon n. 1. law. A person who has committed a felony

Now what is a felony?

felony n. 1. any of several crimes, such as murder, rape, or burglary, considered more serious than a  misdemeanor and publishable by a more stringent sentence.

We have children that wear this name like a badge of honor. I hear them, when they ask, if they could get a job doing something that, looks like it would great/fun. They shout it out "I am a felon".

And, the other person, did not even asks or expect that to come from that person.
 What do this sticker or name do to a person deem wicked? How do a mother conduct herself in making the adjustment to this new life, with police, court dates, etc.?

What do it mean?

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Why should I care

As a Mother who was once  in the shoes as many others out there. I felt the shame of having a child that committed a criminal offence. How do I not let people know what has happen. What will they think about me. I am a professional. I wanted to run for public office. Why me Lord? Why me?

Now I had to take this walk along. I did not have friends that had been down this lonely road of dispersed.
Feeling as I had wrong my child for he did not have a father. It was my fault.

This is why I care. This is a role someone must fill. To be there and point the direction one must take, in dealing with the criminal justice system.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Online support groups

I have this idea that mothers need to someone to talk to, make some sense of that which is happening to them since their child has enter the criminal justice system. I was once there. I see others mothers, grandmothers etc. reaching out to see if others will help them make sense of the matter. I am just stepping out to see what I can do to make a difference in the lives of women who are now dragged into this way of life. Thanks!

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